07 Aug Impact
We can impact so many lives without even knowing we made a difference in someone’s life. I believe we enter into people’s lives for reasons. Some are for good and then there is some that is for bad. We make choices on hoe to impact others. Those choices can be positive or negative. When we engage in a conversation with someone we have made a connection for that moment in time. We may never see each other again or we may run into that person again years later in our journey through life.
I’ve experienced both positive and negative impacts from others throughout my life. The positive ones I don’t recall as much as I do with the negative ones. I believe there is a reason. I’ve had many “friends” who no longer wanted to continue being my friend upon my release from being incarcerated. I tried to mend those relationships, but they decided to no pursue the friendship. I was somewhat hurt and disappointed, but I didn’t allow that ruin what I was trying to accomplish with my new life. I see it as a cleansing from fake individuals from my life. Actually, the correct word to use will be hypocrites, since they are religious individuals who go around saying they have a heart for sinners, but I guess scripture must have “except Topher”. Honestly, their negativity is far from me which is great for me because I don’t need people like that. I look at this negative impact as a way to make sure I don’t impact anyone around me with negativity. I’m sure I have in the past and all I can do is learn from it.
I don’t keep track of how I impact people around me with my presence. I am simply just me and I guess I have something that draws people to really enjoy me and what I have to offer them. I don’t see what that is cause my life is pretty boring right now, and hectic. Well, I recently reconnected with some inmates I was incarcerated with a while back and it was great to hear that they are still on the right track on changing their lives. Well, I was on the phone with Eddie the other day and he was asking me how everything is going for me since I’ve been free. I shared some experiences with him and caught him up to speed with my life and what I have been up to lately. Well, as we continued our conversation, we said something that really encouraged me. He said, “Man since you left, nothing has been the same. Everyone who knew you in here all said that you were so encouraging and positive to have around. You made time for everyone and didn’t judge people. Your presence was missed when you left, your presence is still missed. Even the correction officers talk about you. We are all so glad you are doing well and have worked so hard to get where you’re at right now. Everyone says hi!”
When I heard this, I was overwhelmed with joy because I thought for a moment that I didn’t really serve a purpose for having my entire life ripped apart and loosing 3 years and losing everything I owned to be incarcerated. Upon hearing this I have so much appreciation that I was definitely used to encourage all those guys. I didn’t do anything intentionally, I was just being myself. I was given favor with everyone I came into contact with. Even in the midst of a hell live environment, good things can occur to individuals who may not even think they are deserving of anything good. I know many of you can’t access this blog from your forgotten civilization but I do appreciate all the real people I met in there. I hope the best for you all. Keep focused on what you want to do and don’t allow anyone, or anything keep you from achieving your dreams.
<I want to leave you all with some quotes:
“Don’t ever underestimate the impact that you may have on someone else’s life.” -Anonymous
“Recognize that every interaction you have is an opportunity to make a positive impact on others.” – Shep Hyken
“Every action we take impacts the lives of others around us.” – Arthur Carmazzi
“Small gestures can have a big impact. Create where it matters.” -Anonymous
I hope that I was able to encourage someone reading this today. Do something extraordinary for someone. Show that person that they matter to you, even if you may never see them again. Make a huge impact on someone’s life!
**As a side note, sorry I have dropped the ball on writing every other day as my original intention was to do but I have been busy with work and a huge project for this conference coming up in September.