21 Mar The Value of Time
Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it.
You can’t keep it, but you can spend it.
Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back”
– Harvy Mackay
I am approaching the third-year anniversary of my release from incarceration. I can’t believe it has been three years already! Where has the time gone? You know, it doesn’t seem like I was ever incarcerated. Seems like I was away for some time and everything changed when I came back. Three years was a very long time to be separated from family and friends. I was isolated from society, from my everyday life, from the comfort of my everyday life. Those three years is time I will never get back. During that time, I learned how time can be my best friend and how it can be my worst enemy. When you have so much time and no freedom, you realize how slow time can be but you also learn how you can utilize that time and be productive.
When I was released, I was excited to be reunited with my family. All that time away made me appreciate them all the more. I spent the whole day with them, making up for lost time. I didn’t want that day to end. During my incarceration, I dreamt about having a week pass with my family but then I’d wake up realizing it was just a dream. When I was at my mother’s house the day of my release, I started thinking into the future, a time I had no control over. Due to the overthinking, I had a break down because I was terrified that my life was never going to be the same.
Fast forward time to three years later, my life is nothing like it was before incarceration. I am a web/graphic designer and get to work from home. I am motivated to do well in life. I am confident in myself. I workout every day and eat healthy. I strive to be successful. I am forgiving, kind, compassionate, wise, understanding, and transparent. I am open about my life and very content with everything. Above all, I spend more time with my family than I did in the past.
I’ve never told my family this, but I try to see them at least every weekend because I missed 3 solid years of spending time with them. Sometimes when I do visit or try to hang out, they may be busy, tired, or exhausted and I kind of get bummed but it’s not cause I drive 70 miles, its cause I don’t want time to be wasted cause I’ve already wasted time… three years. I value time so much. So, I value the time with my family. If I am at a coffee shop with my little sister for a few hours, test driving a Tesla with my other sister, grabbing desert with my mom, chillin’ with my cousin and her son, or facetiming long distance family members as long as I spend that time with them, I value every second of it. I value every chance I get with them because I know what it’s like to have time taken from you.
While that time was taken, I put that time to good use. I received another degree while incarcerated (thank you tax payers). I learned how to do web development. I learned about myself and how strong I am to be able to go through three years of incarceration. I made plans to work for myself… Now, my career is successful. I co-own a business and started my own company. Overall, I am doing well with my new life.
I value time. I don’t waste my time. If someone is worth my time, I will invest. Trying to rekindle old relationships, I’ve learned that it not worth my time. My time is valuable. My time with my family is valuable. My time with close friends is valuable. My time with my career is valuable.
Don’t allow your time to be wasted. Value the time you have with loved ones. Value the time you have being free. If there is something or someone wasting your time, remove that from your life. You don’t want years to pass by and later regret wasting time. Remember, your time is precious and valuable.
“There’s only one thing more precious than our time and that’s who we spend it on.” – Leo Christopher“The greatest gift you can give someone is your time because when you give your time,
you are giving a portion of your life that you will never get back.”